看到一段澳大利亞兒童教育專家Mr. Michael Grose的建議，分享給大家：（中文是我大致翻譯的，以理解含義為主）
家長(zhǎng)打開(kāi)成績(jī)單之前先做一個(gè)小小的自查，看看自己的想法是否合理，家長(zhǎng)可以問(wèn)自己：Parenting expert, Michael Grose, suggests that before you open the report do a little self-check to see if you are in the right frame of mind:
1. 你對(duì)孩子的期望是否符合實(shí)際情況、符合他們的能力？設(shè)定期望是一件棘手的事情。如果期望過(guò)高，可能會(huì)讓孩子拒絕學(xué)習(xí)。過(guò)低，又沒(méi)有挑戰(zhàn)性。最好是根據(jù)孩子的能力來(lái)調(diào)整你的期望，快速參考一下孩子上一次的成績(jī)單，可能會(huì)給你一個(gè)好的思考標(biāo)準(zhǔn)。Are your expectations for your son or daughter realistic and in line with their ability? Expectations are tricky. If they are too high then kids can be turned off learning. Too low and there is nothing to strive for. Pitch your expectations in line with your child’s abilities. A quick check of your child’s last report cards may provide you with a good yardstick.
2. 你相信不同孩子的學(xué)習(xí)步伐各不相同嗎？在每個(gè)教室里都有反應(yīng)緩慢的、晚開(kāi)竅的和穩(wěn)步跟上老師步伐的孩子，所以不要把自己的孩子與兄弟姐妹或朋友的孩子、甚至你自己的孩提時(shí)代做比較，而是關(guān)注孩子自身的進(jìn)步。Do you believe that children learn at different rates? There are slow bloomers, late developers and steady-as-you-go kids in every classroom, so avoid comparing your child to siblings, your friends’ children and even yourself when you were a child. Instead look for individual progress.
3. 你更愿意保護(hù)孩子的自尊還是讓孩子泄氣？自信是學(xué)習(xí)的先決條件，所以對(duì)孩子要盡量保持積極的和鼓勵(lì)的心態(tài)。學(xué)校成績(jī)單無(wú)論形式如何，都應(yīng)讓你了解到孩子在所有學(xué)科領(lǐng)域的進(jìn)展，他的學(xué)習(xí)態(tài)度和社交能力的發(fā)展。Are you willing to safeguard your child’s self-esteem rather than deflate it? Self-confidence is a pre-requisite for learning, so be prepared to be as positive and encouraging as possible. School reports come in different formats. Regardless of the format, school reports should provide you with an idea of your child’s progress in all subject areas, their attitude and social development.
家長(zhǎng)打開(kāi)成績(jī)單時(shí)的注意點(diǎn)：Ideas to consider when you open your child’s report
?重點(diǎn)關(guān)注孩子的優(yōu)點(diǎn)。比較有挑戰(zhàn)的是關(guān)注不屬于核心課程的那些優(yōu)點(diǎn)。Focus on strengths. The challenge is to focus on strengths even if they are not in the traditional 3Rs or core subjects.
?成績(jī)要結(jié)合孩子的努力程度和學(xué)習(xí)態(tài)度一起考慮。如果成績(jī)單顯示出孩子的努力程度低于標(biāo)準(zhǔn)，這才是值得你思考如何幫助孩子改進(jìn)的地方。Take into account your child’s effort and attitude to learning. If the report indicates that effort is below standard, then you have something to work on.
?拓寬你的關(guān)注點(diǎn)，不僅僅聚焦在學(xué)科成績(jī)上，而是應(yīng)該拓展到孩子作為社會(huì)一員各方面的發(fā)展。例如孩子如何和他的同伴交往，這會(huì)影響他的幸福感和身心健康；孩子的獨(dú)立能力和合作能力也是未來(lái)職場(chǎng)中被高度看重的方面，因此，千萬(wàn)不要看輕這些技能。Broaden your focus away from academic performance to form a picture of your child’s progress as a member of a social setting. How your child gets along with his or her peers will influence his happiness and well-being, as well as give an indicator to his future. The skills of independence and co-operation are highly valued by employers, so don’t dismiss these as unimportant.
?和你的孩子一起討論成績(jī)單，從優(yōu)勢(shì)方面開(kāi)始聊起，問(wèn)問(wèn)孩子對(duì)自己的表現(xiàn)有什么看法，問(wèn)問(wèn)孩子有哪些擔(dān)心。Discuss the report with your son or daughter, talking about strengths first before looking at areas that need improvement. Ask for their opinion about how they performed and discuss their concerns
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