非暴力溝通實(shí)踐成功后的自我質(zhì)疑

公眾號(hào): 樂(lè)哥兒養(yǎng)育記

邊看邊一直努力實(shí)踐中，記錄一下今天的實(shí)踐

Nonviolent Communication3人有Marshall B. Rosenberg Megan Angelique Louise Thystle Bill Nick Nayla Keith Liisa Louise Xavier ShayPuddledancer Press / 2015-09

和兒子放假第n天，老娘洗著碗呢，忽然想起樂(lè)哥洗手很久了

M:what r u doing there? Dont play with water, ok?

Lawrence: im not. Im cleaning.

M: what r u cleaning? Come out and show me!

刷馬桶的小刷子??你怎么炸毛了，然后老母親的情緒也開始炸毛了……

M: what have u done!? I told u not to play there!

L: the brush is dirty so i want to clean it.

M: and is that the way u clean it!? U took the hair off the brush one by one! Can it be used any more?

L: no, but i just want to clean it.

M: u r making an excuse to mess around! 

見到傻兒子居然還笑著一個(gè)勁往身上湊，更怒了！非暴力溝通，我忍，首先告訴他老娘現(xiàn)在的情緒，你看不懂情緒是嗎！

M: tell me, how do i feel now? Am i happy or upset?

L: upset?

M: i feel upset because the brush is useless now. We cant brush ur potty for a few days and i guess it would be stinky. Do u want it to be smelly?

L: no!依然一副很開心的樣子，老娘真的火大了……

M: u know what, u should take a seat in the corner and think what u did.

邊坐邊撩老娘聊天……

M: u r supposed to sit there quietly and think carefully about ur mistake.

15分鐘后

M: now let’s talk about what we should do now. Do u need another brush to wash the potty?

L: yes!為什么笑得和花一樣燦爛……

M: but can u pay for it by yourself?

L: no!

M: chinese new year is coming so i guess u will get some lucky money. Now i will lend  u the money so that u can get another one. Once u get ur money, u need to pay me back. Is it clear?

自己想出來(lái)的一個(gè)破辦法，然而自己生悶氣，自己后悔浪費(fèi)時(shí)間，人家依然開心不得了，不懂你氣個(gè)啥。

好吧，非暴力溝通，盡管自己生悶氣，至少?zèng)]有大吼沒(méi)有暴力解決，或許這就是最好的方式了……